This afternoon i have my final appointment with the psychologist to get the results of all the tests that she has done on my son. I know she cannot fix him but i am finally going to get some answers so i will know how to work with him and what extra help he will need to school next year.

After 5 years of not understanding how he thinks or how to treat him i am really looking forward to being able to.

Oh yay Deb, it will be great to have the answers you have craved for so long

I will be with you in spirit Deb......try not to get too anxious and take a notebook in case you need to refer back to stuff. Best of luck.

Our eldest was diagnosed with one of the many forms of dyslexia. Their report advised us and the teachers how he learns. Its just different to others, not worse or better, and now we know he's come along in leaps and bounds!!

hugs Deb, this is a new beginning for you and your son

I hope all goes well for your son

Thinking of you mate ... At last the answers you have been waiting for!

http://www.integrativepsychiatry.net/index.html

 

This is an interesting website that looks at natural forms of supplementation to adjust nutrition in the treatment of psychological disorders. But remember the basics: plain filtered water, a variety of healthy natural organic locally grown foods, healthy living.

 

I think we have a lot of "diseases of the 21st century" due to food and water tampering, poor nutritional quality of food, living within a system that has become too complicated for everyone to cope with, and pollution. Your son is not the real problem, don't look at him as a problem, there might actually be nothing "wrong" with him that needs "fixing". It might be something else that is creating an undesirable response/reaction in him. It might even be reversible.

 

I hope you will find the tools that you need to create a better quality of life for him and yourself. Best wishes.

That's great that you are going to know more about it, l'll be thinking of you and your son.

May your appointment today answer alot of your questions, and may your relationship with your son grow even stronger because of them . Good Luck with everything and I am thinking of you all.

Thanks for all your well wishes, Jadon has been diagnosed with Aspergers disorder and i am not upset at all with the results, i finally know why he is the way he is. Now i know what makes my little boy unique. The psychologist is going to send us some info of some good books and information on how to teach him the skills he struggles with. It is his communication and social skills he will need help with.

Well, Deb, its what you were thinking it was. There's a form of comfort in having answers you can work with. Onwards and upwards now. Learn all you can and take any help offered. Big hugs :angel1:

I'm so pleased you have the answer you have been craving for for so long! Research it and learn as much as you can... you may be able to find some good books or articles aimed at children, so all your kids (esp the older ones) can learn why he is the way he is...

 

I'm thrilled :rofl: (I'll chat to you further over the weekend...)

Glad that you got the results. I hope that everything goes well for you. Unfortunately not everyone will be kind and understanding, but that is simply because they arn't educated. Good luck with everything and I wish both you and your son a very bright and happy future. With a helping hand from you and the rest of his family he will be able to achieve greatness in anything he wishes to do.

I know some people with Asperger's and they don't even appear or act any different to you and me. It's not too bad a syndrome at all really. They adapt very well to life and are usually highly intelligent. They can be a bit socially awkward sometimes, but they learned so quickly, that by the time they grew up they don't have any problems.

 

I bet it was a relief to finally know.

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I have been doing some research on Aspergers disorder and it has made me feel more postive.i thought i would share a little i learnt if anyone is interested.

Aspergers is on the milder end of autism and is characterized by deficiencies in social and communication skills.

They have very literal and logical thought process which means i have to be very specific in what i say to him. I am finding that hard, to really think about how i word things when i speak to him. A couple of days ago i had a little problem with him when i sent him to his room because he was being difficult and i told him to "stay in his room and play with his cars and not come out till i come to get him." When i went to get him he had pooed and wet his pants, i asked him why he did it and his answer was "you told me not to leave my room".

That is just one of the many incidents of wrong communication, it is going to be a challenge for me to remember to think about my words.

They have no social sense so they find it hard to make friends. We are thinking about getting him a puppy for christmas, he is very gentle with animals and we think it might be good therapy to have a puppy.

I would love lots of prayers and postive thoughts as me and my family look at the best ways for us to help Jadon.

Deb, thankyou so much for sharing this with us and I think a puppy would be a great idea

 

Keep us updated on Jadons progress .....and yours :angel1:

Will be thinking and praying for you guys. Good luck with everything.

Oh My Gosh ... I have a specialist appointment on Tuesday for my Miss 12 who also is believed to have Aspergers.. her life has been very difficult going for so long undiagnosed..

A friend of mine who's son has Aspergers sent me a few books that have been great reading and have helped me to understand Ash a little bit more and i highly recommend them..

 

Aspergers Syndrome -A guide for Parents and Professionals by Tony Attwood

Why does Chris do that? by Tony Attwood (The National Autistic Society)

Words will REALLY hurt me -How to protect your child from Bullying.. A guide for parents and carers (The National Autistic Society)

Martian in the Playground -understanding the schoolchild with Aspergers syndrome by Clare Sainsbury

 

The last and the first book that i listed are REALLY good reading...

Aspergers can be really difficult but with more understanding on how one with it functions and see's the world helps so much..

Oh My Gosh ... I have a specialist appointment on Tuesday for my Miss 12 who also is believed to have Aspergers.. her life has been very difficult going for so long undiagnosed..

A friend of mine who's son has Aspergers sent me a few books that have been great reading and have helped me to understand Ash a little bit more and i highly recommend them..

 

Aspergers Syndrome -A guide for Parents and Professionals by Tony Attwood

Why does Chris do that? by Tony Attwood (The National Autistic Society)

Words will REALLY hurt me -How to protect your child from Bullying.. A guide for parents and carers (The National Autistic Society)

Martian in the Playground -understanding the schoolchild with Aspergers syndrome by Clare Sainsbury

 

The last and the first book that i listed are REALLY good reading...

Aspergers can be really difficult but with more understanding on how one with it functions and see's the world helps so much..

 

 

I hope things go well with your specialist appointment and you get some answers. i am sorry to hear that your daughter has gone undiagnosed for so long, that would have been hard for you.

Tony Attwood has a website that i have looking at and i plan on buying his book.

Sorry I missed your post here .. I PM'd you some ebay links for both the books (Tony's and the Martians in the playground one)

Yup I'm an Ebay Nut :rofl:

As i was saying also before, the books are not only great for you to read but also a great reference for other family members to get a little more knowledge and understanding .. siblings, grandparents etc etc ..

 

PM ANYTIME :laughter:

You should also look at Sue Larkey's web site. Sue present a lot of workshops on Autism and the Austistic Spectrum, which Asperger's is a part of.

 

At one of her recent workshops i was was at, she was discussing what we say to children, and how Asperger's syndrome children cannot understand things.

 

For example, when a child does something that affects another child, we often say

 

"look at what you have done? Do you think (other child) enjoyed it? Did you think of his/her feelings?"

 

A child with Asperger's is very ego-centric - that is they only see the world from their point of view and they cannot consider the point of view of others.

 

Asking a child with Asperger's to consider the feelings of someone else is the equivalent of handing a blind child a normal book and asking them to turn to page 34 and read the 2nd paragraph out loud.