Hi Guys,

 

Well I'm well and truly letting the cat out of the bag here, but I am so anxious I can't take it anymore! Tuesday week ago I did a pregnancy test because although I hadn't jotted down the date my last period had started I was pretty sure I was overdue and I had some heart burn, not really taking it seriously I told my husband that I would buy I test and test myself whilst with some girlfriends of mine. And to my surprise (good one) it was actually positive :yes: . I went to the doctors the very next day for a blood test, which also came back positive . In my excitment I told a few people, just could keep it totally to myself otherwise I would have literally burst . Anyway last Friday afternoon, just 3 days after finding out that I was pregnant I started to spot , so I jumped on the web and found out that if you are going to miscarry there's really not much you can do as generally this means the pregnancy is miscarring for a reason, so tried not to stress to much and still went 10 pin bowling on Friday night (I'm in a league), and I'd also read that even bed rest was a bit of a myth - if it's gonna happen it's gonna happen, then went ice-skating Saturday morning, during which I must admit the spotting got a little heavier, anyway have I mentioned at this stage it's still just brownish and not bright red, well on Sunday during our Christmas BBQ, it became a bit more of a bleed rather than spotting and a little more on the red side, so I'm thinking I don't think it was meant to be.

 

Now during all of this, I rang my Obstetrician's rooms on Thursday after the blood test came back positive and was told to ring on Friday when his secterary was in. Which I did at 9.15am Friday to be told that she was busy and would ring back, I was asked if I had seen him before and I said yes but it was 6 years earlier, anyway come 2.00pm on Friday after the spotting had started and I hadn't heard anything from them I decided to ring back, to which Sue his sectetary answered and stated she'd been really busy that she wasn't at her desk and could I hold whilst she returned, yep not I problem I say and then I wait, and wait, and wait, until finally another women answers the phone and says she's going to have to ring you back and asked my name. When I stated my name she promptly repied You've already left your name this morning and she will get back to you, without really even giving me a chance to explain how I was anxious as I was spotting, and with her tone didn't feel like telling her either.

 

Monday still bleeding but not heavy, during the whole weekend the only time I switched from a panty liner to a pad was at the BBQ and was quickly able to convert back to a liner, and no pain (maybe just a slight dull ache, but thats it). Anyway I ring the Ob. again and start to explain, how I'd rang the Thursday and Friday when the women cut me off to say she was the lady I had spoken to when leaving the messages for his secterary, then once again prompting stating to me that she couldn't find me on the records, so this time I mentioned that my surname was spelt without an E on the end and that I had actually seen him just last year for a simple treatment (which had slip my mind when I'd spoken to her on the Friday), and guess what she found my records is 2 seconds flat and her tone changed instantly :hi: (when she realised I was a previous patient of Dr***) and when I mentioned the whole spotting/bleeding thing she was a different person, stating that she would have to speak to the Dr and get back to me which she did within minutes :bow: . Anyway to try and wrap this post up I was instructed to get 2 pregnancy hormone tests 2 days apart to see (basically) if they are increasing things should be fine or deceasing meaning that I probably have or are about to miscarry. So I had the first on Monday and the second this morning at 8.45am, so I rang at 4.00pm to found out the results and the receptionist said she'd get the Dr to call me back and I told her I would be home all evening so he could get me on the home phone and surpise, surpise guess what NO CALL!!! :tut_tut: I would have thought if there was a chance he wouldn't ring this evening that she would have mentioned now you do realise he may not be able call until tomorrow- or something when I told her "I'D BE HOME ALL EVENING" ( thought a obstetrician's secterary would know how anxious I would be :doh: ). So once again the wait starts. I'm in a good head space with the possibly of losing the pregnancy because I realise these things generally happen for a reason, but it's the not knowing. I was really happy on Tuesday because I'd had one of the test and I knew that I was on the way to knowing where I stand, but now I've had the final test and haven't be called back, I feeling frustrated and just a bit over it.

 

Anyway (is that the 50th time I'd typed that) anyway now that I have spilled the beans I will difinately let you guys know that second I :question: find out.

I hope you get some answers soon, i have had 2 miscarriages and i understand how frustating the not knowing is and i got stuffed around heaps by doctors with my second miscariage. i will be praying that things are okay, bleeding is sometimes normal with pregnancy. With my first pregnancy i was spot bleeding for the first trimester and did not lose the baby but i did have to rest.

waiting for results really sucks :raincloud:

Fingers crossed you get good news :hug:

I was wondering how long it would be before you spilled the beans :hug:

 

I hope they get their butts in to gear Carolyn, it's interesting that in my experiences with a few different care types in both my pregnancies(due to dramas during my first) I found the OBs the most useless :raincloud: If you ask me the family birth centre nurses were by far the most helpful and supportive.

Edited December 3, 200816 yr by melbournebudgies

Try not to worry too much Budgielover13, when I finally fell pregnant after 5 years of trying and 3 attempts at IVF, I finally fell pregnant and at 12 weeks I woke up one night to find myself lying in a huge pool of blood. I naturally thought i had miscarried, but miraculously I hadnt. The doctors could not explain why it happened but I carried Lauren to full term with no further complications so try not to panic just yet.

I have all my fingers and toes crossed for you, and I must say you have the patience of a saint. I would have been chewing the doctors ear off by now and have sacked the pitbull terrier receptionists he has that stop his patients getting the right care at the right time

 

Best of luck :angel1: :raincloud:

I have my fingers crossed, I remember I spotted with Aaron and I was a wreck, I know the brown coloring is actually better the the red because it means whatever happened it healing up, I had a small hemoragge (sp) with a little bit of rest was okay and went away. To take it easy, you can prevent things from getting worse if they are not the bad in the first place :raincloud:.

Just checking in with you Budgielover13, any news yet??

Oh you poor thing .... Thinking of you

Yes bed rest is a total myth When i first fell preggers ( before the kids) I assumed I was miscarrying as I had bleeding and a weird pain so the Mother in law made me stay in bed for 3 days ... bleeding subsided but when i got up it started again .... So the less you do the less blood you loose ...

 

Are you able to go to another Dr and get the blood tests done? At least that way there is no more waiting and Not knowing .....

 

I have had 2 miscarriages so I feel for you - But look on the bright side 5/10 pregnancies have spotting and slight bleeding in the first trimester and 2/50 still get their period through out their pregnancies ..

 

I hope you get the answer that you are looking for .....

I don't have any kids, so I can't offer you any advice. hehe, but I do want to offer you my best wishes and I hope everything works out and that the OB has a talking to his secretaries.

Good luck Girl!

Yep I did finally get a ring this morning right on 9.00am whilst at schools with the boys (who do not know about the pregnancy) and the hormones are on the decrease (Bummer) , which I handled fine as my gut feeling had told me this already, so decided I will continue and do my normal reading with the Preps, when I thought better ring my husband between kids and let him know that, what I thought it would be had been confirmed. Now I don't know whether this is my fault because I keep telling everyone that I'm in a good head space about the miscarrage (which I truely believe I am, as I wasn't pregnant for long (if I'd gone through all the morning sickness etc and it was quite a few weeks into the pregnancy it may have been a different story) and I do understand that these things generally happen for a reason) Geez brackets inside brackets are you meant to do that? :bump: Anyway i tell my husband and literally get a grunt back from him, and then silence so I basically say goodbye and hang up. Then I start to stew :tut_tut: . He didn't even ask if I was alright? So couldn't help myself and send him a texted message which will appear like I have accidently sent it to him, reading - "My husband loves me that much that it doesn't even cross his mind to ask if im okay", which would have been sent nearly an hour ago and haven't heard back from him but then again he properably doesn't think I realize I sent it to him.

 

You know, I think I would just have like him to say something, - UPDATE THIS WAS INTERUPTED WITH A CALL FROM MY HUSBAND - was about to type anything - he has just rung and apologized for not thinking and actually asked a few questions about what the doctor had said etc so I'm instantly feeling much better.

 

And as I said to my husband just now although I am in a good place with it all, just for a few moments after being told it hurts as you now know that there is no more slim chance.

 

:thankyou: Thanks so much to everyone who has taken the time to read my "novel of a post" and has sent me their good wishes , my chin is up and there is always more chances when it comes to pregnancy :star: .

 

Thanks again,

Budgielover13 :thanks:

I sorry to hear that Carolyn, but I do agree that these things happen to a reason, as you say itis better for it to have happened now than in a few months time.

 

Well with any luck we'll both be in the preggers boat together (fingers crossed for girls :thankyou: )

Hey MB,

What do you think about those gender selection programs/calanders etc? I know you have to pay for them but I'm starting to think it might just be worth the $200 - $250 that they all seem to charge.

It's not hard and you don't need to spend an arm and a leg either, just do a google search for baby gender selection and you'll get heaps of info;). Also make sure you have a high calcium/low salt diet. I have had lots of problems with calcium deficiency so my doctor has put me on a calcium supplement to increase my chances of a girl :thankyou:

 

 

Check out this linkto my thread

 

http://forums.budgiebreeders.asn.au/index....;hl=baby+gender

Edited December 4, 200816 yr by melbournebudgies

Sorry to hear mate, I was going to say even ALOT of bleeding doesnt mean anything but in this case it did, and its easier when it happens now then if you found something was wrong at 3-4 months and had to make a decision then of how to handle it (not easy)

Good luck for the next try though- will you keep on rolling with the idea or wait a bit?? I found a chinese calender on google and it was right for me, also typed in old wives tales for a bit of fun..

Its funny reading this on here as I have no female friends in town I chat too, its kinda like having a 'virtual' coffee meetup!!

Biggest hugs to you :rofl: I'm so sorry for your loss... but as you said, everything happens for a reason. When the time is right, it will happen and I look forward to sharing the joy with you then!

Yeah,

 

I know what you mean the pie, I love this site as you can say anything and know you're not going to be judged in any way, shape or form, and the support you get is amazing. I just feel frustrated when I don't get to get onto the forum, which has been a bit of late. There was my sons birthday :cake: to organize then there was this little hiccup and now Christmas :tree: is well and truely just around the corner and I have so much to do :bliss: , but I do have to keep reminding myself that I do deserve to give myself some time out and jump on the forum.

sorry to hear the news........

 

 

from all of us :bliss:

Sorry to hear the news. Hugs.

We are always here for a virtual coffee chat.

Big hugs, I was so hoping it was nothing