okay So I got a new Budgie from a local breeder. She is really nice and only cost me $40 (some of his birds sell at auction for $200+) and her Grandfather won a diploma so I am really happy with her.

 

She escaped from her cage and was lucky to not fly out the open door but into the study and where I have some guys in breeding cages.

 

So a frantic dash home and find out that she is okay, go to put her back in the cage and find out that she did not escape but the cage is broken, the cage is broken because my sisters boyfriends 18 month old daughter had tried to look a the pretty bird and when she could not get the clips off the doors she tried to take the top off the bottom and broke the plastic (the cage was on the way out anyway but still NOT HAPPY)

 

This is not the first time she has tried to get one of my Budgies out of a cage, she has tipped over Buddy's cage and has also opened up and left open Lemon and Limes cage. She has also opened the Patio cages on the bottom and left it open. So far I have been really lucky and have not lost a bird thanks to her but it really is only a matter of time.

 

I am really mad about this, they do this all the time, she gets up and they turn on TV and leave her to go back to bed. To make matters worse we have a grumpy old dog who WILL BITE her if she annoys him! She cannot be left alone with him because is he bites her he will have to be put down as is the law!

 

It's really annoying me. But what really really pissed me off it that I now have NO cages, I mean none, the one she broke was a complete back up cage. I can't put her in with the guys in quarantine on the patio as after MBs loses I am not taking my chances with them. I can't put her in with the Guys in the house cage because really that cage is only big enough for one Budgie not two like is in there and also they are older cocks and she is a younger hen, not to mention that they are still in quarantine until the 20th of this month. I can't put her in with Sky cause well that would be stupid! Mozzie is still in the makeshift hospital cage and DQ went back in the aviary for this new girl to use the back up cage.

 

I can't put her in with Buddy because he should still be in Quarantine really but I am being a little lapse with him and also he is in a loan cage which is TINY. I have her in the travel box for a few hours but that is kind of cruel and she was freaking out!

 

So I went against my better judgment and will get yelled at by people on this board but I put her in with Harley and blocked up the breeding box. The breeder puts all his birds to be sold on Triple C every few weeks and she only came off a course in the past few days, she has been wormed and has been de mited. So the risk is low but I am SOOOOO annoyed that I had to do this!

 

My only other option is to put Harley in the aviary and give her his cage but he does not like the cold and drops body weight like that if he gets cold so I really don't want to put him out. I had put Storm out in the aviary over the weekend because as a breeding hen I am thinking she is a lost cause, she keeps laying eggs and must be breaking them within hours of laying them. :budgiedance:

 

So I am grumpy because I had to do something and I have had to risk Harley (even if the risk is low) because my sisters Boyfriend does not look after this kids right. And what really annoys me is I go around to MBs and her kids are great with birds and cages and dogs and everything else she has there, (oh can't forget the horney rabbit!) so I know that it's not because she is 18months old but because she has no real parenting going on. He falls asleep and leaves her the run of the house she gets into my stuff and it really annoys me. I am going to have to put a child gate up leading into my study as I can't close and lock the door as it is two sliding doors and also the room gets very stuffy and as Buddy is going to be living in there I want him to be able to get fresh air.

 

GRRRR she is so NEVER going to be allowed anywhere near my breeding room.

 

okay thanks for reading I just needed to vent!

No child of that age should be left unattended. If they dont get their act together there will be more trouble for the child than the trouble she is causing you. I think the parents needs a wake up call with regard to their responsibilities for an 18 month old child. You dont leave a child of that age free in the house and go back to "bed" and lock the door. Some things have to come first.

I was wondering how long until you vented here:D I reckon you should put a child gate on the front door and just not let her in at all :budgiedance:

She is going to end up killing herself or having a serious accident. I do this for about half of my living (eg I am a nanny 50% of the time) the youngest boy I have full time is now 3 and I have had him since she was born really I know what he can do if you turn your back let alone leave him in a room alone!

 

MB I soooo want to do that. Your kids are always welcome at my house but she is not. What also annoys me is if I am not home they put her in my bed... They never ask and she wet the bed last time, I swear I can still smell it and I have had the matress cleaned!

Edited July 7, 200817 yr by Angelic Vampyre

Ummm this is a problem eaislly solved ..

By sounds of it this isn't your sisters child? but her Boyfriends?

So tell him not to bring her to your house has they have respect for your belonging

let alone the saftey of your birds and the little girl !!!!

 

I'd do it no problems there!!! Children as you are aware need boundaries set from a young age!

 

Don't let them over if they can not RESPECT you and your belongings!!!!!

I would lay bets that the boyfriends ex would not be happy if she knew he and his girlfriend were off in a bedroom with the door shut and a 18 month old child left unattended in the house while they "budgie bonk" in the bedroom. Now thats putting it plain and simple :budgiedance:

You need to lay those facts down in front of the pair of these "adults" who are not being responsible about the child. If the childs mother knew this was happening...the child wouldnt be visiting with her father for very much longer.

 

PS This isnt just about budgie trouble from a youngster....its also about child neglect.

I am right there with you Kaz, For me at the moment it is Budgie trouble but I see the bigger issue. The other issue is that her mother is on her third child to third guy and all of them are under 4 years of age, she get's "bored" with the kids which is why they spend the weekend with my sister and her boyfriend. I might be sterotyping but she is one of those mums who has the kids for the baby bonus and seems to get pregant at the drop of a hat. Once is an accident three times is a you're not trying very hard are you!

 

I see all the signs of trouble with this little girl and it worries me. I hate it cause there is nothing I can do about it. I don't claim to be an expert but I know what I am talking about with kids I have brought my nieces up, it's part of my job, I have had foster kids and emergency housing for kids and yet when I suggest something for the bf to do he gets all "you don't have kids what do you know?" on me! GRRRRRR. Jesus I went to uni and did Pastrol counceling to work with At Risk Teens! Hello I think I know something about raising kids, I got my two nieces who where 8 months and 2 years old when I was 14 and put myself through school and and brought them up after their mother died and their father had a nervous break down! I have had two kids I don't care if I did not give birth to them! One has now completed school and at uni the other one is in her final years of school (thank god for boarding schools).

 

I am going to have to put my foot down with her and her father. She will not be allowed into my study unless I am there with her, she will not be allowed into the breeding room full stop. This weekend I am going to explain my issues to him and say that if I lose a bird he is going to have to $$$ compensate me! (he is really stingy with money so this will hurt him). I wish there was more that I could do for the kid but I can't, She is going to grow up with a mother who does not care and a father who does not understand what it means to be a dad!

 

Neat - I am going to lay down the law this weekend. I have already said that she can't be there this weekend cause the breeding room is going in and doors will be open and closed and everything will be happening and I don't want to risk her getting injured by one of the builders or the sparky. She is not allowed in my room or my study nor is she allowed into the breeding room and that is final! I have tried to be nice but neither of them get what it means to have kids and my sister so desperatly wants them but I fear she has got a lot of home truths that will bite her in the ****!

Maybe the father should spend some money also on door barriers so the child is kept contained in safer areas of the house. BUT truly, if he isnt being responsible with his daughter in the house he shouldnt be allowed to bring her there.

I am so sorry to hear of your situation AV, i hope your sister and her boyfriend will listen to you and understand how important it is for the 18 month old to stay away from the birds. i really feel sorry for the child, she is touching the birds because she is bored and does not understand the proper way to behave because her parents are not taking their responsibilties seriously. i know my 4 and 2 year old if i do not give them things to do and leave them to look after themselves will chase my cats because they are bored.

That's just horrible . I hope they will start caring . I would also put those baby gates everywhere and lock them somehow. Or maybe you could put a small chain with a lock on those sliding doors - if they don't keep your rules, I know it sounds like an extreme, but I would do it :hap:

But on the other side I understand the little girl - kids love animals, she just wants to play. But doesn't know she can hurt them .

 

They will be sorry one day when she grows up and leaves them, or something

 

 

Now THAT BEHAVIOUR IS NO A-CEPT-TABLE

 

 

 

 

Sorry just had too

Edited July 7, 200817 yr by Neat

Dude that is so me, she got told that the other day!

Problem Solved !

 

 

 

 

Yes AV I think you need to lay down the rules. This is YOUR house so that means anyone living or staying in it abide by YOUR rules.

I don't know how understanding 18month olds are, but are you able to teach her to leave the birdies alone as well as locking her out of the bird rooms? Just incase father doesn't respect child barriers and what you say.

Father should also be paying for the broken cage no matter how old it was. His lack of care resulted in damage of your property.

Edited July 8, 200817 yr by Sailorwolf

Problem Solved !

 

 

 

 

 

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Is that legal???? So want to do this!

 

 

Yes AV I think you need to lay down the rules. This is YOUR house so that means anyone living or staying in it abide by YOUR rules.

I don't know how understanding 18month olds are, but are you able to teach her to leave the birdies alone as well as locking her out of the bird rooms? Just incase father doesn't respect child barriers and what you say.

Father should also be paying for the broken cage no matter how old it was. His lack of care resulted in damage of your property.

 

MB has a son about the same age and he is really good about the birds she has. I look after a boy who is now three and he has spent large amounts of time at my house. At 18months he was calling mac (the grumpy dog) Grumpy and would not go near him. he always asked before he approached my bird cages so I can't see how this is much different!

Might be time to lay down some toddler law. Talk to the girl then. Teach her. Hopefully that will help.

This is so sad, I really feel for the little girl who has obviously been given no boundaries and to be left to her own devices is unbelievable. She doesn't understand right from wrong and apparently neither parent has the time or inclination to deal with her, she is just a problem to them.

 

I also understand your frustrations AV. I know it is not up to you or your job but maybe you could let her help you with your birds so that she understands more and that she just can't play with the cages.

 

I hope you can work it all out.

Edited July 11, 200817 yr by Denise

My oldest son used to sleep in the dog crate when I took my kelpie to herding days :hap: We'd take the crate and set it up and when he got tired he'd crawl in there and shutthe door and go to sleep, he never had to worry about the flies

He hid in there the other night to aviod a shower! :hap: