my apir were getting on fine preening each other and the male was feeding her, but them, like i posted before she seemed to go out of condition. them she has started feeding him, every 20 minute or so, it also looks as if she is asking for him to feed her, any ideas, im soo confused

(Laughing out loud)...so am I I have never seen a female feed a male before.

my female and male alternate

Be very careful a female will only feed a male when HE is sick. Just check to see if she isn't begging and not feeding.

i think the thing is that she wants him to feed her so she is trying to sort of show him how she beggs alot and he will feed her but not as often as she feeds him, what should i do?

Just leave them to it. He may or may not get the idea, not a lot you can do, they will figure out the best way to cope!