I have had enough of childcare, the reality is that the kid that makes the most noise is the one that gets the attention and this is leading to all sorts of problems with my kids at home. They are progressively getting worse and worse with their behaviour on the weekends and in the evenings. The reason I'm sure it's childcare is because when we had them home for a month over xmas they were awful for a week and then lovely for the rest of the time. I am keen to stay home and sort them out myself as it has reached the point with my oldest that I feel he is starting to go off the rails He spent this weekend in an almost constant tantrum, threw things and hit his brother and generally missed out on all the nice things we had planned (trip to the playground, etc).

 

The problem is that I have been offered a couple of more months of work if I want it. I know we REALLY need this income in the short term to help save the last little bit we need to buy our house next year and with xmas(and a large number of family birthdays) coming up BUT I'm very concerned about what I'm risking by accepting it. I investigated family daycare but there is a long wait for places and our only other option is a private nanny which we can't really afford.

 

Sigh... I don't expect you guys to be able to solve my problems, I just really needed to write it down so it didn't drive me insane

(((HUGS))))

Hugs, I wish I could give you answers, that is a hard choice, I know one thing your family comes first so when you put it that way no matter what its I know you will make the right decision.

If it was just up to me I'd stop work tomorrow but I know that despite saying he'll support whatever I decide my hubby really wants me to take the $$. He lives away though for work and I don't think he really understands how bad he is getting

Hey not a soultion but an offer, if you want I could take one of the kids for one day on the weekend and switch it around so that you can get some one on one time with each child over the next few months. It may help and make you feel more relaxed. It might help with the I want attention thing as they will feel like they are getting that for one day and if they play nice on the second day then they will get to do it again for the next weekend or in a few weekends time. If you want I can do it (Saturdays work best for me)

 

Otherwise (((((hugs))))))

Wow AV, tht's an amazing offer, are you sure? I would probably inflict Max on you as it's Alex that really needs the work at the moment. I still haven't decided what Im doing though...

 

On a seperate note are you available for a babysitting job Friday week in the evening (10th)? I have my uni graduation at 8pm that evening.

Friday is fine. and happy to take Max, will have to find ways to get as much sugar in him as possible! Nah joking. I am sure I can find some things we can do.

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Wow, THANKYOU SOOOO MUCH!, this might just make the difference for the moment. I have to do something in return for you, if you need something moved on the trailer or you come up with something you want done let me know. Let me know when you want to start

This Saturday will be fine if you want me to take him. My sister has her sort of step daughter who is going 3 in March and their saturday is as follows so was just going to tag along with Max

 

10am - Brunch at Bliss (eggs bacon and hash brown)

11am - Rare bears indoor play centre (including snack lunch from cafe and packed samwichs)

2pm - back home, nap if required, independent play, story time, afternoon tea

5pm - Daddy comes home

6pm - dinner.

 

So I figure that I will take Max at around 9am and bring him home around 5ish if that works for you?

 

Just write me a list of anything that he is not allowed to eat.

Oh my gosh AV you are one amazing person! Let me know how much the activities are going to cost so I can give you some money, I'll send along some snacks (sultanas, etc) for him so that you have some stuff to take along

Oh my gosh AV you are one amazing person! Let me know how much the activities are going to cost so I can give you some money, I'll send along some snacks (sultanas, etc) for him so that you have some stuff to take along

 

 

Snacks would be great.

 

bliss will not cost anything as I have a frequent sippers card which gives me a free kids meal with adult breakfast on Saturday (one of the reason we take Chole to Bliss for Brunch) Anna said that she has two free passes for Rare Bears so that will be free as well so yeah just snacks and a water bottle, also have to work out car seats.

It's up to you whether you want to but I have a spare car seat which you can just hold onto if that is easier, otherwise we can just pop it in the car and take it out again when he comes home

What type of seat is he in? I have a Full booster seat but I think he is to young for that. How old is he again?

 

Anyway we will sort it out on Saturday.

He still in a convertible type. Legally he can sit in a booster but I don't know that it's particularly safe. He turns two in three weeks, which reminds me that we won't do it on the 18th as we have a party at my mums house

Yeah no I think he need to be in a convertable one still will sort it out on Saturday.

Hi guys,

 

Don't know whether you realize it or not but I am a Family Day Care Provider, and I work with the City of Casey, pity I don't live a little closer to you, but only have great things to says about the small group settings of Family Day Care, in relation to Day Care Centres. I have one little child who spends 3 days in a Day Care Centre and 2 days with me. He has become alot more rowdy since being in the centre, I think he needs to attract attention there, rather than having general attention given to him most of the time and individual attention during periods of the day. Anyway MB if you have any queries about Family Day Care, I should be able to help.

I hope it works out for you MB and you manage to get the money oyu need and calm your boy down

 

I think that's another reason my brother puts his kids in the care of Bob and I, we're here full time with 1 on 1 time and more discipline than a childcare can provide.

 

Many of my friends are childcare workers and they only have a few adults to god knows how many kids per room. They're not allowed to say no, or don't do that to the kids they beat around the bush with things like "diversion" and "alternatives" Well I'm sorry but if a kid hits another kid I'm not going to say "hey lets go play over here instead" I'd be telling them what they've done wrong and get a minute in the naughty corner...

 

You may be able to find a full time (work week) carer for them? I know there's so many people who're able to provide it and very cheaply... I only get paid $140 a fortnight for full time care of two kids and that's plenty for me

Thanks Carolyn, they have been in Family Day Care before and I did like it but I spoke to the co-ordinator up here and she said at the moment the wait can be over five months because so many people are trying to get out of formal childcare so it doesn't really help me much

 

I had thought of that too Libby, we are going to see how we go for the time being with AV helping on a Saturday and then decide

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FDC to Family Day Care

Jus found out how you can pay me back! Elmo can fly! Does not get much height but can fly distance freaks me out when he flys all over my study! So yeah you can come and be the mean person who clips his wings so I am the nice mummy who is not mean and wrap him in a towel!

I can do that for you Someone offered me a male king for $100 today semi tame, seriously thinking about popping him in the aviary and finding him a hen

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WOW that is cheap, wonder how semi tame he is

 

They are so pretty!

Apparently happy to be around people and talks a bit but won't climb on you, which is fine with me as he would be an aviary bird