okay, so we've decided to have another baby, my mum is hassling us for a girl (don't ask me what I'll do if we have another boy!) and our youngest is about to turn two. Can someone talk me out of it before I make my life more chaotic than it already is

Why LOL MB, if you can handle it and have the patience go for it!! Seriously, I have a girlfriend with 5 kids she has the patience of a saint. I can only handle 2 that is my limit but for those that want more I say go for it.

2 kids is enough for me to handle!!!! I am NOTTTT having any more - EVER!! I barely have the patience for the ones i have so adding to them would send me ---->

 

I am not a real "kiddy" person and was never going to have kids, it was only when i met my hubby that i said i would have some.

I dont have much support from family as they are all in their 70's and don't have the stamina to look after two under 5's regularly.

 

If it feels right by you and you have the time, money, support and patience, then go for it.

Spawn! Think, dirty nappies, night time feeding, all the illness that come with a baby. Where is the new one going to sleep, streach marks, sore feet, heck not being able to see you feet for a large period of time! Then there will be one child with the middle child symdrone, in fighting, the boys ganging up on the girl. Not to mention all the other things that you still have to look forward to like more broken bones, three in school, the extra cost of that. Not being able to take friends of your child out with you as your whole back seat will be full! Then there is going to be the "But I want a Puppy mum" and you already have two and if you get one for one of them you end up with three more dogs or more rabbits or rats or more birds.... okay the more bird thing is not so bad.

 

Hmmmm what else, oh yeah if one gets sick then all of them get sick so now you have three kids all screaming more you which might not seem like alot more then two but it is.

 

Did that help honey? You asked!

Hahahaha- You couldnt find another course I take it!!!

 

 

 

I just told the boy......Mb is thinking about having another troublemaker.......

 

Not gonna laugh, not gonna laugh, not gonna laugh,

 

 

 

 

Bahahahahahahahaheeehoooohooohaaa

 

 

Sorry I had to LOL

Liv you sound like me and Pie OMG he is a DOLL.....have more MB so you can post your baby's pics too.

:hap:

 

It kinda helped me AV now tell my mum, my husband and my children!

 

 

In the words of Alex... (who's 4)

 

Hubby: Hey Alex would you like mummy to have another baby?

 

Alex: Yep...but three babies!!!

 

Hubby: Why three?

 

Alex: Well Maxie's a boy and I'm a boy and mummy's a girl. So that's two boys and a girl...three babies, see!

 

Hubby and me: Ah ha...

Liv I'm with you, though I stopped at ONE and I have loved every inch of motherhood but one was enough for me!

 

Priceless, gorgeous pics Pie, they brought a chuckle to my morning.

 

Good luck MB!!

Mb, I was in your same boat a little while ago -

Everyone was hassling me to have another ( would be 3rd kid)

I thought about it for a while ( i am 28 I had Tj when i was 21 turning 22)

I didn't get much Life experienced between being 18 and 22 So there is still stuff i haven't done that i would love to do ( without kids )

 

But Dylan is 2 he will be 3 in April, So toilet traning is coming in summer

 

I am the one that is with the kids 24 7 I couldn't imagine having to do it all over again I am a monster when i am pregnant

So i wouldn't be the best mother for 10 months - Then the feeding every 2 hours ( nappies don't bother me :hap: )

There goes the sleep again - I wouldn't be able to cope on hardly any sleep and then jugle 2 little kids house work and etc ...

 

I am happy with my 2 and lucky i got a boy and girl if it was the other way 2 noys or 2 girls i might have had second thought and went for a 3rd ...

 

It is your choice, But if you want us to talk you out of it I can do that real EASY!

Hopefully you will have a girl, if not then you will kep trying till you do, you may end up with all boys

Then you will have to go and buy all new stuff as i am sure your boys clothes won't be appropriate for a little princess

then there is all that jazz - about your little princess wanting to do Dancing, Ballet, Jazz, singing - Girls stuff is far more expensive then boys stuff - So that will leave little money for your show birds -

 

okay so I am trying to talk you out of it But if you want one Go for it mate if not I am sure your family will understand ..

Always better for the girls to be the youngest in my eyes :hap: See then they can check out their older brothers hot friends HAHA But if it's older girl with younger brothers that's not so fun haha

 

As Neat said, all of us can either talk you into it, or talk you out of it, but really what it comes down to is your own personal preferences, your situation and how you feel deep down about it

You have to know we get excited about babies and baby photos on here....all kinds. A BBC baby is something to look forward to :hap:

Hi MB,

 

I'm 37 and am thinking about the whole possibly having another baby thing, I now have 2 boys a

7 yo and a nearly 6 yo so there would be a big gap, but I feel with your first you don't know what to expect and it's all a bit scary and then I had my second so soon I felt like I was too busy to really enjoy but if I had one now, I think I would have more time and patiences and get to really enjoy anyway I've decided what will be will be. No protection to speak of and if its meant to be, it will be. I think our meeting is this Thursday and I'm hoping to see you there so we can debate baby or no baby then :hap: .

I'll be there :hap:

Edited September 23, 200816 yr by melbournebudgies

It sounds like you want someone to tell you 'Don't do it', which means that you are unsure. Bottom line is it's your body, your life, nobody has the right to say do it or don't do it, it is totally your choice. There is no 100% that you will have a girl only 50/50. :hap:

Edited September 23, 200816 yr by Denise

I'm not opposed to it Denise, just excited but apprehensive about going through it all again :hap: With my second it was an easy decision as my first pregnancy was a breeze and he was an easy baby, my second pregnancy was awful so it makes you think twice about putting yourself through it all again

My first pregnancy was a breeze too - second wasn't too bad, but was SOOOOO tired and kept getting sick with no time to rest. I couldnt imagine how tired i would be if i was pregnant now. I still get up about 2 times a night with my current kids ZZZZZZzzzzzzzz

 

What about your job? Are you planning to be a SAHM (stay at home mum)

Is your house big enough?

Child care costs?

If you have a girl - they are A LOT more expensive

What if the baby has a disability - how will that affect your family?

In about 10 years you will become a TAXI service to 3 kids all wanting to go in different directions at the same time.

Some 3rd babies are quiet and easy - others can be a nightmare, never sleeping and always crying etc!!

 

I love pregnancy and newborn babies - i actually want to be a midwife. I am going back to school when the kids start school.

 

It is so hard to decide for sure as there are so many variables to look into. If its what you want than do it - number 1 priority is you have to be happy with your choice

Oh as others have pointed out imagin in 10 years time Alex wants to go to place A, Max to place B, and new bub to place C. When you have two you can split them up between yourself and your partner.

 

I know with my boss they have three at the moment and I always end up going to one of the kids sports days or plays or taking them to something because it clashes with the other twos activities. Having said that if you ever need an extra taxi I am not that far away, Alex and Max have me so wrapped around their little fingers! I would take them home in a heart beat!

My second was horrible too. first was exciting and etc the birth was 7 hours drug free and wasn't that bad

6 pound 3 ounce girl .. But Dylan OMG! he just didn't want to come out I was in that much pain and agony i was induced

5 hours later of drug free intense not make that THE WORSE POSSIBLE PAIN EVER IN THE WORLD - ( cervix wouldn't dilate had to get pull over his head .. Yeah ouch is right - well out came a lazy and fat 9 pound 8 ounce baby boy ...

 

They say that your labour lessen the more babies you have

 

Either way I'll be happy for ya

Edited September 23, 200816 yr by **Liv**

They also say that the babies get bigger with each one. My first was 8 lbs 9 ozs and the second was ten pounds !!!! OUCH isnt exactly what I said back then

Abby, my second needed forceps as she was coming forehead first - i was also as emergency C section and i kept blacking out with the epidural.

Oh Kaz, I thought mine was bad ...

 

Yeah ouch wasn't the excat words i was using either But this is a G rated forum

My second labour was a nightmare too. I was already fully dilated before I had any contractions, it all seemed just a little too easy... Then my waters broke and within 5 minutes I was in full labour (contractions one minute apart!) but he wasn't in the right position and so I sufferred through full labour for about 9 hours before they eventually decided to prep me for a ceaser, then he got the hiccups, turned over and out he came He's been a difficult child from the start

they eventually decided to prep me for a ceaser, then he got the hiccups, turned over and out he came He's been a difficult child from the start

 

LOL I don't know what to say to this, always knew that one was trouble you can tell from his eyes! Hiccups, really hiccups?

they eventually decided to prep me for a ceaser, then he got the hiccups, turned over and out he came He's been a difficult child from the start

 

LOL I don't know what to say to this, always knew that one was trouble you can tell from his eyes! Hiccups, really hiccups?

 

 

OMG AV, babies get hickups in the womb all the time - can be felt from about 20 weeks - such a funny feeling

Yeah, back to the weight thing, my first Cooper was 6 pound 12 ounces at 5 weeks prem, then came Mitchell at 9 pound 3 ounces, so if I do have a third it scares me to think about the possible weight .