Thursday i took my son Jadon to a Paediatrician because i have been concerned about delayed development in certain areas and Preschool are also concerned about him. The Peadriatrician believes he has features of a Autism Spectrum Disorder and now i have to go through the long process of psychological test and other tests to decided what exactly his disorder is and what support he will need for the future. He is due to start school next year so all these tests need to be done before then. I have been given all these info yesterday about the long process i have to go through before i get a final disagnosis for my son that i feel like my brain is in overload. I have appointments in November for the psych tests so i hope they go well. I am already starting to stress out about how he will go at school and it is still months away.

Edited October 13, 200816 yr by KAZ

Biggest hugs Deb :angel1: Hard to do but please try not to stress....you need to be well and strong to support him through it all. If you get stressed you get sick ( just like a budgie does ) :hap: Take time out to smell the roses and make your plan to deal with only one thing at a time, and only as much as you can handle each day. Much love and hugs .....Kaz :angel1:

Many children fall upon different levels of the Autistic Spectrum. People know of the severe Autistic examples, but there are many more forms, with lesser degrees of Autistic traits. Teachers have been doing lots of training with this, and there is governmental assistance available to schools to help children with differing capabilities. It $ natural to be concerned about how your child goes in school, especially for a child with a mild or moderate disability, but you do not stress.

 

It is more common than you think Deb, and schools are geared more and more to coping with students with this.

 

Trust me, I am a teacher who has a Masters Degree in Special Education, and I have just recently completed another course in "Educating Children with ASD's (Austistic Spectrum Disorders)".

Deb, at least you are getting some answers, the unknown is the worset. I remember when my cousin's little boy was diagnosed about 3 years ago, he is now 6 and she has fought for him. Know that you have the support of this forum and many good friends here that will either help you out if you want or just listen to get it out. If you need anything let me know, I know I am miles and oceans apart but I am here.

Thanks Kaz, Dave and Elly, I am glad to hear that teachers are being trained to teach children that need extra support. That is another thing i still have to organise, to talk to the school before he starts next year.

My Friends son (almost 4) has just been diagnosed with aspergers. She was devastated at first, but now she is over the mood because she finally understands him.

 

I agree, don't stress ((((Hugs)))))

There are so many facilities and resources out there now for this recognised condition - you may even get money from the government each year because you will be his carer.

Edited September 19, 200816 yr by **Liv**

((((Hugs)))))

l agree with all they other posters, it is hard when this happens but at least you will be getting some answers soon. l know it is hard to wait and try not to worry ( l know that it is easier said then done) ((((Hugs)))))

Deb at least you got some answers mate:D I don't know what to say- sorry doesn't seem right as it isn't yours or your sons fault, and congrats doesn't seem right either, I didn't know what it is , so i just googled it

 

Dave is right ( not that i didn't believe him) it is very common and estimated that only 50 percent of children are diagnosed before kindergarten.

 

So please don't take this post the wrong way, i just don't know if i say the right things at the right time , you know what i mean .... Maybe i shouldn't say anything - But BIGGGG HUGSSSS and I will give you a BEAR HUG on Monday

Glad that you've finally got some answers and now the whirlwind starts...lol Good luck

I finally got some positive news today, i have been so worried and depressed the last couple of weeks because of my son having to start school next year. Preschool and the pediatrician say because of his developmental delays he is not ready but he is 5 so by law he is supposed to go to school. The principal of the school today has told me he can work around that law so Jadon can spend another year at preschool which will be the best thing for him. I am so relieved, it has been a huge weight lifted off me. I have been so worried about him going to school that i have not been sleeping or even been happy for the last few weeks.

Edited October 13, 200816 yr by Neat

Thats is good news Deb. Great too the your issues are being recognised and people will work with you to help you through

Oh Deb ... FANTASTIC NEWS MATE!!!!!!

Finally your questions have been answered ...

that is good

Awesome news Deb!!! I'm so pleased for you and Jadon. :hug:

I finally got some positive news today, i have been so worried and depressed the last couple of weeks because of my son having to start school next year. Preschool and the pediatrician say because of his developmental delays he is not ready but he is 5 so by law he is supposed to go to school. The principal of the school today has told me he can work around that law so Jadon can spend another year at preschool which will be the best thing for him. I am so relieved, it has been a huge weight lifted off me. I have been so worried about him going to school that i have not been sleeping or even been happy for the last few weeks.

 

Very good, I think our law is 6y old, 5 is too early I believe for kids to start Kindergarten but that is my opinion only, Hailey is an August baby and could have went by 5 but I waited until she was 6, made a world of a difference.

Our Law is that they have to be at school the year they turn 6 and Jadon will be 6 in Oct next year so he is supposed to go but i am glad the school is able to understand that some kids are just not ready at 5.

Yes that is good, I know my friend had her son held too because of a senory disorder that the developed because he contracted strep b at birth when their blood mixed.

Why is it just when you think things are finally going your way more problems arise? The principal of my kids school got in touch with me today to imform me that he had made a mistake, it is not easy to hold my son back from school and i am the one who has to organise it not the school. I have to send a letter to the dept of education and training with documentation supporting my decision of wanting to hold him back. He said that it most cases the applications are denied so that is not giving me much hope. I am so worried about what i am going to do if they will not let me hold him back a year. :hap:

Oh mate . I have everything crossed for you both. Try to be positive, even though it must be so hard. Just think of it as he is going to be one of the lucky ones that DOES get to stay back another year. I would imagine they would accept some applications, and lets hope yours is one of them. :hap: xoxo

Deb speak to the home schooling association. Atleast in Vic as long as the child is being educated that is all the education department wants to know. Here you are completely within your rights to tell the education department that you are educating your own child and then a year later just happen to change your mind and enrol them in school :hap:

Deb speak to the home schooling association. Atleast in Vic as long as the child is being educated that is all the education department wants to know. Here you are completely within your rights to tell the education department that you are educating your own child and then a year later just happen to change your mind and enrol them in school :budgiedance:

 

 

I have been thinking about that option MB. If my application is denied then I will explore the idea of homeschooling for a year.

Deb speak to the home schooling association. At least in Vic as long as the child is being educated that is all the education department wants to know. Here you are completely within your rights to tell the education department that you are educating your own child and then a year later just happen to change your mind and enrol them in school :budgiedance:

 

 

A question???? If you do what you have suggested above, and then enroll him the following year, because of his age, wouldn't you have to enroll him in grade one??? Not prep? AND wouldn't this kind of defeat the purpose. Holding him back because he is not ready for school, but then when you send him, unless you have been able to teach him everything that get taught in their first year of school, then he will still be behind???? I'm not having a go at the idea, just trying to get my head around it

Deb speak to the home schooling association. At least in Vic as long as the child is being educated that is all the education department wants to know. Here you are completely within your rights to tell the education department that you are educating your own child and then a year later just happen to change your mind and enrol them in school :budgiedance:

 

 

A question???? If you do what you have suggested above, and then enroll him the following year, because of his age, wouldn't you have to enroll him in grade one??? Not prep? AND wouldn't this kind of defeat the purpose. Holding him back because he is not ready for school, but then when you send him, unless you have been able to teach him everything that get taught in their first year of school, then he will still be behind???? I'm not having a go at the idea, just trying to get my head around it

 

I am not sure about that, i would have to talk to the principal of the school and see what happens. If i did homeschool i would have to teach him everything that he would normally learn at school. He is very smart but his social and emotional development is delayed which is why i want to hold him back. He has no problems learning if it is one on one but he hates groups so put him with a classroom of kids and he would get anxious so he would misbehave.

Maybe this is an option for you then Deb? We are embarking on our homeschooling journey in about two weeks after making the decision not to send our oldest to chool next year. The thing you have to remember is that in a one on one situation an entire days learning can be accomplished in less than an hour because it is much more focused than in a room with 25ish other kids.

Deb speak to the home schooling association. At least in Vic as long as the child is being educated that is all the education department wants to know. Here you are completely within your rights to tell the education department that you are educating your own child and then a year later just happen to change your mind and enrol them in school :budgiedance:

 

 

A question???? If you do what you have suggested above, and then enroll him the following year, because of his age, wouldn't you have to enroll him in grade one??? Not prep? AND wouldn't this kind of defeat the purpose. Holding him back because he is not ready for school, but then when you send him, unless you have been able to teach him everything that get taught in their first year of school, then he will still be behind???? I'm not having a go at the idea, just trying to get my head around it

 

I am not sure about that, i would have to talk to the principal of the school and see what happens. If i did homeschool i would have to teach him everything that he would normally learn at school. He is very smart but his social and emotional development is delayed which is why i want to hold him back. He has no problems learning if it is one on one but he hates groups so put him with a classroom of kids and he would get anxious so he would misbehave.

 

 

I can understand you feeling anxious about Jadon being anxious with a lot of other kids but that is going to happen whatever time you start him at school. Wait until he is assessed, depending on the results, he should be entitled to an aid with funding from the education department so he would have some one on one at school.