**KAZ**

Are you checking the chicks feet and inside their beaks etc ?

Charm. generousity, budgie breeder, good looks and TALENT !! What more could you ask ?

How was the access to the cage for the rat to have got to your cockbird ? Can you make any changes to protect them now based on this occurrence. I have had rats dig into an aviary in the past so I know how nasty they can be... Hope you dont have any more of this happening. Are you setting traps for the rats ?

Tell yourself ..........you need dommie pieds .....Kaz likes greywings Tell yourself ..........you need dommie pieds .....Kaz likes greywings Tell yourself ..........you need dommie pieds .....Kaz likes greywings Tell yourself ..........you need dommie pieds .....Kaz likes greywings Yes Master

http://forums.budgiebreeders.asn.au/index....showtopic=28338 Darryl Wells interview

Q1. AT WHICH POINT IN TIME DID YOU FIRST DEVELOP AN INTEREST IN BUDGERIGARS ? It was at a young age of 12. (1976) A friend was building an aviary to keep finches so I decided to do the same. When it cam time to get the birds, I found that Budgerigars were cheaper than the finches. Q2. WHAT WAS YOUR FIRST AVIARY/BREEDING ROOM LIKE ? My first aviary was 8 foot x 6 foot x 6 foot. It had a ¾ roof and an encloses back. It had an earthen floor where the dropped seed germinated into small clumps of grass. King Quail ran about the floor and nested in the grasses. The nest box was one long item divided into10 compartments with a common lid. Q3. WHERE DID YOUR FIRST BIRDS COME FROM AND OVER WHAT PERIOD OF TIME DID YOU CONTINUE WITH THESE LINES ? My Father bought me the first pair from a local pet store. The same year I got a part time job delivering newspapers so saved up for my second pair. The Chicks were sold back to the store for exchange for additional breeding birds. By the end of the season I have up to 50 birds. Then tragedy struck, a local boy of the same age, jealous of what I have broke into the aviary early one morning and put his dog in. By the time I heard the noise and got down there nearly all the birds had been killed.. those that hadn't, died shortly after. Devastated I pulled down the aviary. I recommenced in 2005 with a few pet birds. Q4. ARE YOUR PRESENT BIRDS FROM THESE SAME BLOODLINES, IF NOT WHAT BLOODLINES HAVE IMPACTED MOST WITHIN YOUR STUD? I joined the Pine Rivers Budgerigar Society at the end of 2005 looking for rings and were introduced to the show variety. I slowly replace the pet birds with birds from Henry George, David Ganzer, Dave Frampton, Greg and Jean Horrobin, Brian Hollingsworth and Gary Armstrong. I also have back ground lines of Blair and Polole, and Holme and Howard. Q5. HOW DO YOU PREPARE YOUR BIRDS FOR THE BREEDING SEASON? I have over the past few years, changed how I prepare. This year I will do my annual cull, then place the remaining birds on Doxycycline. A few weeks before pairing, I introduce Gum Leaves to the flights. The weeks before breeding and during the breeding season, I feed fresh vegetables to the birds on Saturdays and Sundays. Q6. DO YOU SET YOUR BREEDING SEASON BY THE CALENDER OR BY SIGNS OF THE BIRDS BEING READY ? I breed partially by the calendar but mostly by the condition of the birds. I don't like breeding through the hot part of the year and so usually start in May or June and finish the last pair in Late December or early January. Q7. WHEN PAIRING UP DO YOU GO BY PEDIGREE OR VISUAL APPEARANCES OR BOTH? When I pair up, I look for the Best hen in condition. I take her out and place her in one of my 6 train cages. I then call up her pedigree (I use "The Budgerigar Program") and select the closest related cock bird. If there is no close related bird suitable I will then pick the best Cock from the flight. Q8. HOW CLOSELY DO YOU MATE YOUR BIRDS AND WHAT RELATED MATINGS HAVE BEEN THE MOST SUCCESSFUL? I pair Uncle to Niece, Aunt to Nephew, Cousins', Grand father to Grand Daughter and some times half brother to half sister. For me, these seem to work well. Q9. WHAT VARIETY MIXES DO YOU USE FOR IMPROVEMENT IF ANY OR IS IT BEST TO BEST? I always try best to best. With my Spangles I pair Double Factor to Single Factor, Double Factor to Normals, Single Factor to Normals but the normals I try to make sure that they are from a spangle pairing. I always try to pair my best Recesive Pied Cock to the best normal Split Hen. Q10. HOW MANY CHICKS AND ROUNDS DO YOU ALLOW YOUR BIRDS TO HAVE? I like to have 4 to 5 chicks in a nest and allow the birds to have two rounds to raise but might let them have a third if I foster. I am big support of fostering and have taken over 20 chicks from a pair in three rounds. Q11. WHAT FEATURES ARE THE HARDEST TO PUT ON A BIRD AND HOW DOES ONE GO ABOUT ESTABLISHING THAT FEATURE AND RETAINING IT, THE DIRECTIONAL FEATHER, STRAIGHT BACKLINE, SHOULDER & LENGTH? At my stage, all features are difficult. I have just attained Intermediate Breeder and aware that I am very much in learning stage. Q12. WHAT IS YOUR FEEDING PROGRAMME DURING THE BREEDING SEASON AND DOES THIS DIFFER DURING THE NON BREEDING SEASON? During the breeding season I feed soft food every day. This is made up of Hulled oats, chopped carrot, beetroot, spinach, and parsley. I also add to it supplements from Dr Marshal. This is feed in the morning to all the breeding pairs and what is left over goes into the flight. As I said above, I also feed fresh vegetables. Corn, Carrots, Apples, celery, mung beans, snow pea sprouts. These are feed in the afternoon on a Saturday and Sunday. What is not eaten by night fall is taken out. I use Dr marshal Additives in the water on recommended days. Q13a. PLEASE DESCRIBE YOUR CURRENT AVIARY DESIGN, SIZE, FLIGHTS, BREEDING CAGE DESIGN AND NUMBER OF CAGES ETC? My Aviary is a Titon shed, 4.5m x 3 m. The walls are insulated with 75mm of insulation and lined with white board. The roof has Isolation and is also lined. I have two windows on the short wall with a ceiling extraction fan located under a whirly bird. There is a double door at one end of the long side. There is three flights, approx 1 m wide and 2.25m long. I have 20 breeding cabinets made of 16mm melamine with wire dividers that can be removed to extend the breeding cabinets to holding cages. The cages have metal trays for easy cleaning. The set up also has a holding area for 100kgs of seed, 6 Training cages made also of Melamine and a small holding cage 600mm x 400mm x 300mm. I have perminant underground power, enough to run a small house. 2 twin 4 foot fluorescent fittings with two night lights. The aviary has it's own 1000lt water tank which is filtered for the birds. Q13b. WHAT WOULD YOU CHANGE ABOUT YOUR SETUP IF YOU HAD THE CHANCE TO DO SO ? Slightly longer would have been good but I have to use what I can ( or what the wife will allow me). The only thing would be a sink and a change to the electrical system. Q14. DO YOU USE PREVENTATIVE MEDICATION DURING AND PRE BREEDING SEASON AND IF SO WHAT AND WHY. I use Doxycycline and Worming Gel before the breeding season to clean out the birds. But I will only use other medication when needed. Ivermec is used for Lice and Feather Mite. Q15. WHAT DO YOU SEE AS THE GREATEST ASSET OF BEING IN THE HOBBY AND WHERE DO YOU SEE THE HOBBY HEADING WITH SO MANY BREEDERS LEAVING TODAY? The best asset to the Fancy is the help and consideration given to novice or beginning breeders from those more experience. In my experience, there are many great breeders out there that are more than happy to lend a hand with a starting bird or advice. There are also those that don't. that is a pitty. With out the new comers to the fancy, it will not have a strong future. With any organisation, new blood not only brings new ideas but also a security for the future. Q16. WHAT WOULD YOU CONSIDER TO BE THE MOST IMPORTANT VALUE ABOUT FRIENDSHIPS FORMED AND FELLOWSHIP WITHIN THE BUDGIE BREEDING FRATERNITY ? This is an interesting question and one I have had to think about. I suppose the assistance in so many areas not only with the acquisition of the birds or the assistance of breeding and animal management but the support we give each other in our private lives. Many of us rely on each other in times of need. Even if it is to look after each other's aviary while we spend time on holidays or in time of sickness. This brings us closer together. Q17. DO YOU HAVE ANY THOUGHTS ON HOW TO PROMOTE THE HOBBY TO GET MORE PEOPLE INTERESTED IN JOINING OUR CLUBS ? The biggest way to get people interested in anything is word of mouth. Discuss the fancy and what you get out of it with your friends, family and associates.. They have friends, family and associated that they talk to and so on. Q18. WHAT IS THE BENEFIT OF HAVING A NATIONAL SHOW? The Nationals bring people of all levels together to see what the fancy as a whole is breeding. It is also a place where friends discuss the finer parts of what they are doing in there aviaries and the changes they have done during the year. It is also a place where beginners can get to see the top breeders and talk about what they should be doing in their aviaries. Q19. HOW WOULD YOU GO ABOUT POINTING A NOVICE BREEDER IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION TO ENABLE THEM TO REACH THE TOP BENCH IN AROUND EIGHT YEARS? The first thing is to join a good club where they will get assistance. They need to be visiting top breeders and shows even before they get their first birds. They need to understand the varieties only enough to know what they like and which ones they want to breed and who they can go to acquire a good starting stock. With a good foundation stock and the assistance of a good club, there is always a positive start. Q20. WHAT DO YOU DO WITH BIRDS WITH FEATHER DISORDERS? They are separated from the main stock and if there is no improvement they are culled. Q21. WHO HAS INSPIRED YOU THE MOST IN THE FANCY? David Ganzer, Brian Hollingsworth, Henry George, Gary Armstrong, Greg and Jean Horrobin, Derick Poole and Roy Blair, Gerald Binks, just to name a few … Q22. WHAT HAS BEEN YOUR LOWEST AND HIGHEST POINTS IN THE HOBBY ? The lowest would be when I over feed the birds on Cod liver oil (not knowing it) and started to lost 1/3 of my flight. I spent nearly $800 on vet bills to find that out and also to be told the birds had no know avian illness'. So in a way I did get some good news. I have won Champion of Show but the high point would have been sitting around a table at my first nationals, which was in Busselton 2008, discussing budgerigars with the likes of Alistair Holmes, Derick Poole, Roy Blair, people that I had read about. As a Novice breeder it was a time that I won't forget. Q23. WHAT IN YOUR MIND WAS THE BEST BIRD YOU EVER BOUGHT THAT MADE THE DIFFERENCE IN YOUR STUD AND WHAT APPROXIMATELY WAS ITS COST ? It first bird was an Opaline Grey Green Cock that was bred by Kathy Krang. I bought him in Auction for $80. He bred the Champion of Show at the Sunshine Coast BA Show in March 2007. Sadly I lost him and some of his progeny. Since then there have been many birds that have help advance my Stock but that bird will always stand out. Q24. IF YOU WERE JUST STARTING OUT ALL OVER AGAIN AS A NOVICE IN TODAYS WORLD, WHAT ADVICE WOULD YOU DISPENSE BASED ON WHAT YOU HAVE LEARNT ? Don't buy any birds or build any aviaries until you go to shows and visit other Breeders of high esteem. Get all the ideas on the aviary layout, management and what the variety of bird that you want to be involved with should look on the bench. Then approach a breed that you are happy with. Buy a few pair of related birds and then support his help by returning in the future to buy a few more. Q25. WOULD YOU HAVE A PHILOSPHY TO SHARE THAT HAS HELPED YOU IN DAILY LIFE WITH YOUR BUDGERIGARS ? Give the birds the attention that they deserve but always be aware of your family's needs as well. If you can involve them, the family, in the fancy, it helps more. Winners are not feed on seed and water only…… Q26. WHAT HAS BEEN YOUR FAVORITE MUTATION OR VARIETY THAT REALLY INSPIRES YOU ? AND WHAT VARIETIES ARE YOU SPECIALISING IN AT THE MOMENT ? I love the power of the Spangle, Dominant pied and Normal but believe that I can put this trait into the Recessive Pied as well. I also love the challenge of the Dark Eyed Clears. Q27. GIVEN ALL OF THE ABOVE, DO YOU HAVE ANY OTHER TIPS OR HINTS ON HOW TO IMPROVE AND SUSTAIN AN EXHIBITION BUDGERIGAR STUD? Never be afraid to learn and listen to new ideas. There are many great breeders that are happy to help and as you go through the fancy, be like them and assist those starting off. Q28. IF THERE WAS ONE MAIN THING YOU HAVE WANTED TO SAY THAT ENCOMPASSES YOUR FEELINGS ABOUT BEING INVOLVED IN BUDGERIGARS AND CLUBS WHAT WOULD IT BE ? It is better to give of one's self to help others.... the rewards over time are definitely worth it. ***notes**** . My name Is Darryl Wells.. Daz to my friends. I am 46, married with two teenage children. I have a high stress job at times and enjoy the relaxation I get with the birds and the excitement of showing them.

Tell yourself ..........you dont need dommie pieds .....Kaz does Tell yourself ..........you dont need dommie pieds .....Kaz does Tell yourself ..........you dont need dommie pieds .....Kaz does Tell yourself ..........you dont need dommie pieds .....Kaz does

Wow !! 401 lots

My Birman Ruskie has decided that Tish is his new best friend............TOTALLY the opposite reaction I expected from him

yes woops sorry just going with the fact that it was not removed i forgot about the no nameing places thing i just went with the flow im really sorry but i was not saying anything bad about that certain company as for it being her daughter jess who was talking to me the whole time and me thinking it was budgiebum im really really sorry budgie bum you should however get your daughter her own account on here kaz isnt their a law about who uses your account on here as if not their should be theirs been a number of times certain members switch to a friend or something and i wonder why their personality changed really should be a rule GB as she signed her posts as Jess I twigged. I am sure Trish ( the real budgiebum ) gave her permission but it wasnt made clear to all that the user had changed.

Rita and Rolf Posthuma http://forums.budgiebreeders.asn.au/index....showtopic=28332

Your dommie pied would be a good match for my Jan MacMahon dommie over here

will this do ?

To save confusion on budgiebums membership here we have Trish who is budgiebum. Any posts saying Jess at the end are Trish's daughter Jessica talking.......okay

Tish aka Morticia is home

another common thing with DF dom pieds is they often have an iris ring one side and none the other. left eye right eye.

Interview with Rita and Rofl Posthuma W.A. Q1. AT WHICH POINT IN TIME DID YOU FIRST DEVELOP AN INTEREST IN BUDGERIGARS ? Since about 1975 have I been interested in keeping birds, but I was told that birds should fly around in the wild, until one day, I was asked whether I would like to have an aviary. Q2. WHAT WAS YOUR FIRST AVIARY/BREEDING ROOM LIKE ? Our first aviary we bought from Joe Olzowy, and we extended it with a breeding room, which held 8 breeding cages. Q3. WHERE DID YOUR FIRST BIRDS COME FROM AND OVER WHAT PERIOD OF TIME DID YOU CONTINUE WITH THESE LINES ? Our first birds came from Joe Olzowy. We continues with these birds for many years. Q4. ARE YOUR PRESENT BIRDS FROM THESE SAME BLOODLINES, IF NOT WHAT BLOODLINES HAVE IMPACTED MOST WITHIN YOUR STUD? We have moved on, and our present birds are mainly from 4 different breeders. Bob Levy’s birds have had the most impact on our stock. Q5. HOW DO YOU PREPARE YOUR BIRDS FOR THE BREEDING SEASON? I keep our birds as healthy as possible all year round. No real preparing for the breeding season. Q6. DO YOU SET YOUR BREEDING SEASON BY THE CALENDER OR BY SIGNS OF THE BIRDS BEING READY ? I breed by the calendar. I have found that from August to Feb/March is the best. Q7. WHEN PAIRING UP DO YOU GO BY PEDIGREE OR VISUAL APPEARANCES OR BOTH? First visual, and then I check the pedigree Q8. HOW CLOSELY DO YOU MATE YOUR BIRDS AND WHAT RELATED MATINGS HAVE BEEN THE MOST SUCCESSFUL? I don’t like father to daughter mating, as I think that these produce weaker birds. Certainly not brother/ sister pairing. Q9. WHAT VARIETY MIXES DO YOU USE FOR IMPROVEMENT IF ANY OR IS IT BEST TO BEST? I try not to mix varieties if possible, however sometimes that is unavoidable if you have two very good birds of different varieties. Q10. HOW MANY CHICKS AND ROUNDS DO YOU ALLOW YOUR BIRDS TO HAVE? I prefer my pairs to have around 4 chicks each if possible. I let the pairs go for 3 rounds time permitting, and if they are still in good shape. Q11. WHAT FEATURES ARE THE HARDEST TO PUT ON A BIRD AND HOW DOES ONE GO ABOUT ESTABLISHING THAT FEATURE AND RETAINING IT, THE DIRECTIONAL FEATHER, STRAIGHT BACKLINE, SHOULDER & LENGTH? I find the head feature the hardest to put on a bird. To me it is a trial and error pairing. Q12. WHAT IS YOUR FEEDING PROGRAMME DURING THE BREEDING SEASON AND DOES THIS DIFFER DURING THE NON BREEDING SEASON? I like to give my birds a good variety of seed. They get Golden Cob breeders mix all year round together with a mixture of pannican, millet, niger, linseed and lettuce. In the breeding season I mix breeding aid through this seed. They also get soaked triticale and grated carrot and broccoli or zucchini each day. They get fruit when available, and corn or silverbeet or other green vegetables. Gum leaves, or hibiscus, grape, or bottle brush leaves are given when I have them and have time to get these. Q13a. PLEASE DESCRIBE YOUR CURRENT AVIARY DESIGN, SIZE, FLIGHTS, BREEDING CAGE DESIGN AND NUMBER OF CAGES ETC? Our aviary is approx 8 m wide and 6 m long. – the breeding sections takes up 2m of the length and the full width. The flights section is divided equally into 4 flights. Flight no: 1+2 have a door which can be opened to make one large flight. The same with 3+4 flight. At the front of the cage we have a 2m section which extends out into the open right across the width of the cage, with a roof over it. This way they can enjoy being outside with the protection they need. The floor is tiled everywhere for easy cleaning. Electricity and water are also connected. We have 14 breeding cages. 8 comes in a bank, and the other 6 are wire cages. I had 16 cages, but found I didn’t need these. With 14 it works well. The breeding boxes are on the front of the breeding cages. If I would change anything with these, I would make the breeding cage large enough so that the breeding boxes could be inside the cage, rather than on the front. The jury is still out whether I like the bank better than the wire cages or the other way around. Q13b. WHAT WOULD YOU CHANGE ABOUT YOUR SETUP IF YOU HAD THE CHANCE TO DO SO ? I’m quite happy with this setup, and can’t think of what I would change. Q14. DO YOU USE PREVENTATIVE MEDICATION DURING AND PRE BREEDING SEASON AND IF SO WHAT AND WHY. The birds are treated with doxy a few times a year for about 1 week at a time. I put a mixture of dried citric acid and bi-carb of soda in the water about once every 8-10 days to keep their gut clean. Ivomec is used to keep the lice etc away. Q15. WHAT DO YOU SEE AS THE GREATEST ASSET OF BEING IN THE HOBBY AND WHERE DO YOU SEE THE HOBBY HEADING WITH SO MANY BREEDERS LEAVING TODAY? I find that breeding budgies is a very relaxing hobby. Going to meetings is very beneficial as you learn heaps of things interacting with others and joining in with the running of the club. It is a worry that people are leaving the hobby, but I can understand that when you get older there are other things to do instead of staying home looking after budgies. Q16. WHAT WOULD YOU CONSIDER TO BE THE MOST IMPORTANT VALUE ABOUT FRIENDSHIPS FORMED AND FELLOWSHIP WITHIN THE BUDGIE BREEDING FRATERNITY ? For those who are willing, you learn that it is not about yourself but about helping others and joining in with the running of the club. Q17. DO YOU HAVE ANY THOUGHTS ON HOW TO PROMOTE THE HOBBY TO GET MORE PEOPLE INTERESTED IN JOINING OUR CLUBS ? That’s a hard one. Maybe we should advertise more in the local newspapers, telling them when and where our clubs meet. Q18. WHAT IS THE BENEFIT OF HAVING A NATIONAL SHOW? The National show gives us an opportunity to interact with breeders from other states, if you are lucky enough to be able to attend these shows. Q19. HOW WOULD YOU GO ABOUT POINTING A NOVICE BREEDER IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION TO ENABLE THEM TO REACH THE TOP BENCH IN AROUND EIGHT YEARS? I would ask them which color they like the best the suggest that they start with that. Some think that it is best to start off with normals, however I think that some of the varieties are also good to start with. They generally are the pretty birds and everyone loves them. Q20. WHAT DO YOU DO WITH BIRDS WITH FEATHER DISORDERS? Depending what the disorder was, I would not breed with them. Q21. WHO HAS INSPIRED YOU THE MOST IN THE FANCY? Some of the Champion breeders. Q22. WHAT HAS BEEN YOUR LOWEST AND HIGHEST POINTS IN THE HOBBY ? I have been very lucky in that we have not had disasters like loosing lots of birds in one go. The most I have lost in one go was 3 of my violets, when it was very cold. At the moment my birds are improving well, and therefore I would consider it a high point. Q23. WHAT IN YOUR MIND WAS THE BEST BIRD YOU EVER BOUGHT THAT MADE THE DIFFERENCE IN YOUR STUD AND WHAT APPROXIMATELY WAS ITS COST ? The best bird was either a lacewing cock or a spangle cock split for lacewing. These birds have really improved my birds. The lacewing I got for nothing and I paid approx $40 for the spangle. Q24. IF YOU WERE JUST STARTING OUT ALL OVER AGAIN AS A NOVICE IN TODAYS WORLD, WHAT ADVICE WOULD YOU DISPENSE BASED ON WHAT YOU HAVE LEARNT ? I would suggest to find an experienced breeder, who is also reliable and has healthy birds. Buy a pair from them, or if you can afford it buy 2 hens and a cock, and start breeding. I don’t think that it is necessary to pay several hundreds of dollars for birds. Q25. WOULD YOU HAVE A PHILOSPHY TO SHARE THAT HAS HELPED YOU IN DAILY LIFE WITH YOUR BUDGERIGARS ? Spend as much time with them as you can. It is both relaxing and enjoyable. Q26. WHAT HAS BEEN YOUR FAVORITE MUTATION OR VARIETY THAT REALLY INSPIRES YOU ? AND WHAT VARIETIES ARE YOU SPECIALISING IN AT THE MOMENT ? I love the violets, but the Danish pieds , lacewings and texas clearbodies are also up there. I have started breeding yellow face budgies and would love to have a violet yellow face someday. To have a violet Danish pied or texas clearbody would also be great. Q27. GIVEN ALL OF THE ABOVE, DO YOU HAVE ANY OTHER TIPS OR HINTS ON HOW TO IMPROVE AND SUSTAIN AN EXHIBITION BUDGERIGAR STUD? I still consider myself a learner in a lot of areas, as it is only the last few years which has really taken me ahead. Q28. IF THERE WAS ONE MAIN THING YOU HAVE WANTED TO SAY THAT ENCOMPASSES YOUR FEELINGS ABOUT BEING INVOLVED IN BUDGERIGARS AND CLUBS WHAT WOULD IT BE ? To be a member of a club and be involved should go together. The more you involve yourself the more you learn and enjoy it. There are a lot of caring people who you meet. Mrs Rita Posthuma Mt. Nasura. W.A. Australia. Open Breeder – have bred budgies for approx 15 years.

Tish arrives tomorrow afternoon. We just had our older siamese cat to the vets. He went missing for 6 days and finally came home ( we thought he'd been killed ). He was acting strangely so I decided to take him to the vet for a checkup...in particular his eyesight. Vets diagnosis is he's BLIND. His irises wont retract or dilate at all...not affected by light shone in his eyes. Explains a lot...like how he went missing for 6 days, and how he gets frightened easily by the other cats going past him and many other weird things he does. Oh well, at least if he's blind he wont notice the new cat :raincloud: here is Orlando

droppings as disease indicators click on link

Good Idea about ebay PS we already got a couple of orders at the budgie club by seeing them there

She didnt exactly say that GB okay i will shut up :raincloud: just ...doesnt matter There seems to be some confusion about the differences between initial materials costs incurred plus additional time and effort and eventual pricing....thats all .

She didnt exactly say that GB

Jess, I would like one of your bags,,,can you do a bright blue budgie and a purple one please ?

If this is truly the case then the eggs will be no good.

Leish is new....I PMed her..........seems she hasnt figured out the forum yet and how to answer to others answers in her own topics, or how to find her own already posted topics, nor does she seem to know how to find her PMs ,,,,,,This makes it difficult for ANYONE trying to answer or help her